Yesterday I caught myself acting like a total jerk to the barista just because she messed up my complicated coffee order. That “better-than-you” vibe crawled up my spine so fast it scared me. Woke up today knowing I needed to unpack this high-horse nonsense before it ruins more relationships.
Step 1: Facing the Ugly Truth
Grabbed my journal and forced myself to list three recent “I’m superior” moments. First one: Interrupting my colleague mid-sentence yesterday to “correct” her. Second: Rolling my eyes when my neighbor asked for computer help. Third: That coffee shop scene. Felt physically sick seeing them written down.
The Why Dig
Turns out my arrogance spikes when:
- I feel insecure about unfinished projects
- Someone outperforms me at work
- I’m stupidly tired or hungry (hangry-arrogance is real!)
Realized I use snobbery like armor – if I look down on people first, they can’t judge me. Pathetic defense mechanism.
Boot Camp for Humility
Implemented these immediately:
- The 5-Second Rule: When superiority tingles hit, physically pause for 5 seconds before speaking. Failed twice at the grocery store but caught my third attempt.
- Daily Downshift: Did something “beneath me” each day – cleaned public bathroom at work, asked the intern to teach me TikTok trends, actually listened when my dad rambled about plumbing.
- Vulnerability Practice: Told my team I struggled with the new software instead of faking expertise. They rallied to help – shocker!
What Actually Works
After two weeks, three game-changers emerged:
- Ask “What Can I Learn Here?” Works every damn time. That know-it-all voice shuts right up.
- Spotlight Strengths in Others: Noticed barista’s insane speed making other orders. Complimented her. She remembered my name next visit.
- Own the Eye Roll: When superiority slips out, apologize immediately. “Hey, that came out condescending – my bad.” Cuts the poison fast.
Final reality check: That high-horse feeling? It’s just fear wearing a crown. Stomped mine into dirt by admitting weakness. Now excuse me while I wait my turn like a normal human.
